Comments on: Try not to judge http://julessilver.com/2008/06/try-not-to-judge/ it all works out for the best in the end Fri, 21 Nov 2008 12:37:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: maya http://julessilver.com/2008/06/try-not-to-judge/#comment-454 maya Tue, 24 Jun 2008 22:24:04 +0000 http://julessilver.com/?p=66#comment-454 Oh goodness, please don't worry about the breast-feeding thing. I felt so guilty in the beginning with Priya. It was hard with her and I was getting pressure from all sides. I'd swear if I ever heard the phrase "Breast is Best" again I'd puke. Strangers that would stop and smile at her on the street would ask me if I was breast-feeding. I think that question is so inappropriate from a stranger. I would sometimes answer with "I put coca-cola in her bottle." and then they would scowl at me. I stopped breast milk with her at 5 months completely and she is a healthy and strong child. She has never been sick except for the occasional runny nose. Amara was easier for me to breast-feed but I stopped at 5 months too. I am not confined to her all the time for food. I have to work, take care of Priya and run my household and formula gives me the opportunity to do that. The irony is that if you're so stressed out about trying to produce milk it's not going to happen and then your baby will just be hungry and upset which will make you upset. It's a never ending cycle. This is 2008 and formulas are better than ever. I am SOO over it. I just wanted to add that your love for William will grow with time. I did not think that was possible but it's so true. Good job Julia! Oh goodness, please don’t worry about the breast-feeding thing. I felt so guilty in the beginning with Priya. It was hard with her and I was getting pressure from all sides. I’d swear if I ever heard the phrase “Breast is Best” again I’d puke. Strangers that would stop and smile at her on the street would ask me if I was breast-feeding. I think that question is so inappropriate from a stranger. I would sometimes answer with “I put coca-cola in her bottle.” and then they would scowl at me. I stopped breast milk with her at 5 months completely and she is a healthy and strong child. She has never been sick except for the occasional runny nose.
Amara was easier for me to breast-feed but I stopped at 5 months too. I am not confined to her all the time for food. I have to work, take care of Priya and run my household and formula gives me the opportunity to do that. The irony is that if you’re so stressed out about trying to produce milk it’s not going to happen and then your baby will just be hungry and upset which will make you upset. It’s a never ending cycle.
This is 2008 and formulas are better than ever. I am SOO over it.
I just wanted to add that your love for William will grow with time. I did not think that was possible but it’s so true.
Good job Julia!

]]> By: Cynthia Armistead http://julessilver.com/2008/06/try-not-to-judge/#comment-444 Cynthia Armistead Sat, 21 Jun 2008 03:50:53 +0000 http://julessilver.com/?p=66#comment-444 Hi there :-) I got here from a link on your husband's blog, and got there from the WordPress Planet feed. I'm sorry to hear that the first few weeks with your baby were so difficult, but I can absolutely relate. I had plenty of milk when my daughter was born, but it didn't have enough calories, so she was constantly hungry. What we were initially told was "colic" was just her being hungry. After the first few weeks, because she was losing weight, we started supplementing with formula, and she was much more peaceful immediately. One of my aunts has a daughter with rickets due to the same issue, and some of my cousins had the same problem. Some babies are clingier than others, even when they are getting enough to eat. If my girl had so much as a sniffle, she wanted Mommy to hold her, so I'd end up sleeping on the couch with her on my chest. (Her father didn't want her in our bed.) It didn't hurt either of us in the long run. She's 17 and perfectly fine, although still very affectionate, thankfully. Enjoy your sweet little one. This is a beautiful time! Hi there :-) I got here from a link on your husband’s blog, and got there from the WordPress Planet feed.

I’m sorry to hear that the first few weeks with your baby were so difficult, but I can absolutely relate. I had plenty of milk when my daughter was born, but it didn’t have enough calories, so she was constantly hungry. What we were initially told was “colic” was just her being hungry. After the first few weeks, because she was losing weight, we started supplementing with formula, and she was much more peaceful immediately. One of my aunts has a daughter with rickets due to the same issue, and some of my cousins had the same problem.

Some babies are clingier than others, even when they are getting enough to eat. If my girl had so much as a sniffle, she wanted Mommy to hold her, so I’d end up sleeping on the couch with her on my chest. (Her father didn’t want her in our bed.) It didn’t hurt either of us in the long run. She’s 17 and perfectly fine, although still very affectionate, thankfully.

Enjoy your sweet little one. This is a beautiful time!

]]> By: matt williams http://julessilver.com/2008/06/try-not-to-judge/#comment-437 matt williams Wed, 18 Jun 2008 00:44:48 +0000 http://julessilver.com/?p=66#comment-437 I want to say, that you are absolutely correct about what you say. Being a parent is a humbling experience. Do not feel guilty over something you have no control of. We have 5 kids and do not love one more than the other. Just love them different, including my wife. I want to say, that you are absolutely correct about what you say. Being a parent is a humbling experience. Do not feel guilty over something you have no control of. We have 5 kids and do not love one more than the other. Just love them different, including my wife.

]]> By: Kevin Haggerty http://julessilver.com/2008/06/try-not-to-judge/#comment-434 Kevin Haggerty Mon, 16 Jun 2008 14:53:23 +0000 http://julessilver.com/?p=66#comment-434 Sorry to hear about your breastfeeding troubles - like you said though, there isn't really anything you can do about it so try not to let it get you down. William will be more than fine on formula. In regards to your comment about loving your son - I couldn't agree with you more on that. In fact, just yesterday I was thinking the EXACT same thing. I'm sure every parent feels that way about their child(ren) - or at least I hope they do. Sorry to hear about your breastfeeding troubles - like you said though, there isn’t really anything you can do about it so try not to let it get you down. William will be more than fine on formula.

In regards to your comment about loving your son - I couldn’t agree with you more on that. In fact, just yesterday I was thinking the EXACT same thing. I’m sure every parent feels that way about their child(ren) - or at least I hope they do.

]]> By: sharon mckellar http://julessilver.com/2008/06/try-not-to-judge/#comment-430 sharon mckellar Sat, 14 Jun 2008 15:29:25 +0000 http://julessilver.com/?p=66#comment-430 it's early in the morning and i'm quite tired, but this post made me teary eyed. it's lovely. and it sounds like you guys are wonderful parents. it’s early in the morning and i’m quite tired, but this post made me teary eyed. it’s lovely. and it sounds like you guys are wonderful parents.

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